We spent hours in the car with our youngest child. Often, she has BOTH parents in the car with her. We watch her football and basketball trainings.
We love it. We love our time with her.
Because she chats non-stop about everything under the sun, from exams, the IB marking schemes, girl politics, Chelsea Football Club, weight issues amongst teenagers, making money, air travel … everything. Sometimes, she chats until she zonks out.
She is our much-loved youngest child.
“Understanding is the essence of love. If you cannot understand, you cannot love. That is the message of the Buddha. If a husband, for example, does not understand his wife’s deepest troubles, her deepest aspirations, if he does not understand her suffering, he will not be able to love her in the right way. Without understanding, love is an impossible thing.
What must we do in order to understand a person? We must have time; we must practice looking deeply into this person. We must be there, attentive; we must observe, we must look deeply. And the fruit of this looking deeply is understanding. Love is a true thing if it is made up of a substance called Understanding”
Thich Nhat Hanh, ‘True Love: A Practice For Awakening the Heart’
Children – and adult lovers – often don’t want more than our love. And what is the currency of love apart from kindness and commitment (steadiness, stability and stoicism)? As Thich Nhat Hanh puts it – UNDERSTANDING, which comes only with TIME INVESTED.
As with everything, if you do not show a child how, he or she would not know how to do the same in adulthood. Too busy to care is a malaise of an unthinking world. Slow down … take the time to understand your loved ones ❤