A couple of days ago, a piece of research from my old alma mater, Manchester University, was published. Several people pointed me in the direction of the research: parents can be taught how to treat autism!!!!
Actually, it is nothing new. Twenty years ago, it was explained very succinctly to me: autism is indigestion of the brain. There is no medication for it. Doctors writing in British Medical Journal urged parents not to use holistic/naturopathic medicine to tray their autistic children. And recently, a child was hospitalised after his mother fed him a concoction of silver and camel’s milk to treat his autism.
Dear parents, YOU are the deciding factor in the end product of how your children turn out. I recently shared this video, where a young man with cerebral palsy embraced his illness cheerily because, in his own words, there are “spastics hiding in normal bodies”. When you look at the tragic cases of ‘normal’ people who committed suicide, took to drugs, die broken, suffer emotional griefs in silence, you will realise that autism and cerebral palsy is not such a terrible affliction.
Check out The Brave’s video on Plastic Brain – please click on https://www.facebook.com/plugins/video.php?href=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.facebook.com%2FTheBraveProject%2Fvideos%2F1107623419324514%2F&show_text=0&width=560” target=”_blank”>this link.
You will see that the vital ingredient is having someone who is behind you all the time, believing in you, loving you and cheering you on. My friend Sue had dedicated her whole life to her son, Marchant Barron, born with cerebral palsy, and Marchant has gone on to achieve great things. And more importantly, despite his huge physical handicap, Marchant is a well-balanced, happy young man.
So it comes down to one thing: parental love. There has to be selfless investment of time (whatever we can afford) into the parenting venture to see the benefits. A ‘normal’ child could be damaged by childhood traumas and go on to hurt people, in the same way a child born ‘not normal’ can be nurtured to be a balanced, happy human being who brings joy to others.
Thus, there is a lot of truth in the old adage, parenting is the most important job you’ll ever do.
So when it comes to autism, what is ‘our secret’? Early intervention is important, as once you know what your challenges are, you know what you are working with, including challenges, issues and not meeting milestones. A system called Relationship Development Integration RDI ™ which has been around for many years. You can read about it here. Please read through the main points of RDI – you will see that it makes a lot of sense. No rocket science required.
This system is successful (I can vouch for that) because it relies on family relationships to bring on an autistic child, rather that quack cures. Love is after all, the greatest healer.