Love her or hate her, Gwyneth Paltrow IS successful. She comes from an acting dynasty and was close to her parents. She is a successful actress with a well-being business. She has dated some of the handsomest men on the planet (Brad Pitt, Ben Affleck and Chris Martin). She has an enviable lifestyle. She is drop-dead gorgeous. And she has two beautiful children.
So what could be wrong in Gwynie’s seemingly perfect world?
‘I’ve f***ed up so many relationships,’ she confessed frankly to Sophia Amoruso on her podcast, Girlboss Radio.
‘I’m actually a pretty good friend, and a good sister and daughter and mother, but I’m at my potentially most vulnerable and f***ed up in the romantic slice of the pie. It’s taken me a lot of work to get to the place where I have a good romantic relationship.’ – Gwyneth Paltrow
You would have thought, why does it matter? She is beautiful, rich, successful. She can have any man she wants, literally.
But the fact is, us human beings crave for that special someone who will be there by our side through hell and high water, in sickness and in bad times, as well as lazy Sunday mornings, cosy breakfasts together, mundane coupledom, spooning, washing dishes side by side, speaking the shorthand language and private jokes between lovers. We know that, from that long, reputable study by Harvard (You need a good husband/wife)
But perhaps we don’t realise, and we don’t instil this in children – as Gwyneth said, “It’s taken me a lot of work to get to the place where I have a good romantic relationship – that whoever you are, however great, a long-term, mutually fulfilling relationship needs this to work:
the investment of time
a certain degree of selflessness
a capacity for forgiveness
lower expectations, (be complete in ourselves and not expect our partners to fill our gaps)
kindness in large doses
and most of all, gratitude to our partners for their presence.
And here’s the thing: it takes both parties giving in equal measures to the relationship to make it work -a relationship is a teamwork – negating the difficulties, challenges and suffering that life throws at us periodically ❤